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Feb 14
2011
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No. 64: Valentine Flowers for My Post-Doc: Am I Crossing the Line?Posted by: PIA in Tagged in: Untagged
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Valentine Flowers for My Post-Doc: Am I Crossing the Line?
Reader question: My post-doc is now halfway through her second of two years in my lab. Candidly, I have developed romantic feelings towards her. But I have been careful not to reveal these openly so far, nor have they interfered with our professional work at the bench. However, Valentines Day has now rolled around, and I wonder if it would be inappropriate to at least present her with a dozen roses? Perhaps with a vague message on the card, like "In admiration of you and your work"?
Expert comments coming on February 14th.
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written by xyz, February 07, 2011
written by xyz, February 07, 2011
It is never good to get involved with your coworkers,more so whom in the picking order below you. However, that should not mean that all human emotion should be off. Work flourish when there is a good working atmosphere of genuine respect, politeness and to some extend some friendly and expressed -nonsexual- affection. I believe giving some flowers or a bottle of good wine, humorousc card, etc,--- but not one or a dozen red roses or explicit cards-- are fine. I have done that frequently and had never a problem, just he opposite. If you are serious, talk to a colleague (and then explain it to her) to transfer her to a different lab before you get really involved.
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